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My fun sick life - what people are afraid to ask

People are often afraid to ask certain things. On general level with everyone, but even more if you are different in anyways. Sometimes it goes to level, where they are nervous even to talk with you. It's easier just walk past over. Most kids doesn't have that scare in them. They are naturally curios and aren't worrying, what the person might think about them after asking something. It's more like social norm, how we learn to act. One time I was at town and about 3-4 years old girl came to me, put her hand for my leg and tried to climb to my lap. His father was view steps away and was terrified. He pick her up and told to her, that she shouldn't bother me. He didn't look me at all or said anything. He just took her off and walked away. What I was thinking when she came to me was, how cute she and the situation was. I didn't mind. Only thing about that situation that I didn't liked, was the fathers behavior. Of course there is things to consider in situation like that. Like talking to strange and the fact that the person might have bad pain etc. The point of the story is that we shouldn't lose the way to see others like kids. Just as person, not all those things how we are different.


I generally like, when people ask, what is on there mind. For me anything isn't too personal. It's about how you ask. If someones point of view is how sad and terrible your life must be, I don't feel like talking at all. If someone is truly interested about me and my situation the premise is completely different. Anyways it's easier for me, when people around me has general understanding about my situation. They get it why I do somethings and don't do some other things. They get it why I'm some days in wheelchair and some days not. That I can look or sound sad and quiet, even I'm not, just because I'm so tired and have pain at that moment. And it's okay to ask is it moment like that.  It's often easier to talk about my health and situation if the other one asks, because I try to limit about it, how much I talk things like this, because it's not something that everyone wants to talk.


Most important thing I hope you get from this post is, don't assume something. Always rather ask! Don't assume that I can't do something. Or I have to do something. Don't assume that if someone who you know and is in wheelchair, has the same situation or thoughts then I do. Even if two person has the same looking situations, same diagnosis etc, there life and point of view can be completely different. If you have anything you would like to ask and haven't ever had someone from who to ask, comment below! More in Twitter @FromMadeByMeri



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